Skill building -Pre-Contemplation spinner game
[00:00:00] Hello, everyone. And welcome. We have got an exciting new skill building game for you. But before I get to that, let me start with an, a introductions. If you don’t already know, we’ve got Casey Jackson on the line and we’ve got John Gilbert. And I am Tammy Calais. So today’s fun skill building is using a spinner wheel.
So we are going to be focusing solely on scenarios and statements in the pre-contemplation stage. And so what I’ve done is I’ve taken, I’m going to share my screen. I’ve taken our rainbow sheet is what I like to call it. That is not the formal name for it.
MI approach. I know I’m so sorry. It’s my nickname. And I have taken everything in the pre-contemplation section. If you have not seen this sheet, it [00:01:00] is in our membership under worksheets and. M I approach worksheet is read from the left to the right. So the left is what you are hearing from the client, their stage of change, their type of talk.
And on the right side, it’ll show what you can do as possible interventions. And the I approach is to engage people. And so today I took all these interventions. Expressing empathy, reflective, listening, reflect how they feel. And I’ve put them into a spinner wheel. So I am going to read a statement.
We are going to spin the wheel and respond via that intention or that intervention. All right. So, Casey, would you like to go first? Absolutely. All right. So here is the statement. This is for employment. [00:02:00] My kids keep me up late. I, or kept me up late. I didn’t sleep well, and my wife didn’t have any food in the house.
So of course, all that caused me to be late. Let’s see what the spinner says.
Big money, big money, big money.
Focus on empathy. I’ll read it again. My kids kept me up late. I didn’t sleep well. My wife didn’t have any food in the house. So of course, that all caused me to be late. You just have so many things on your plate right now that are picking at you. It’s amazing. You even made it here. That’s a great one.
Such good empathy, Casey. That’s good empathy. All right, John, here’s your statement from the school district? The school is not doing what they need to do to teach my son to [00:03:00] read. I’m not wasting my time going to those meetings anymore.
Who else likes the music that comes with this? All right, I’ll read it again. Done. The school is not doing what they need to do to teach my son to read. I’m not wasting my time going to those meetings anymore. So you’re feeling like your time is more valuable than that and that it could be spent doing something.
Yeah. Great. All right. Here’s mine. All right. Mine is drinking adolescent drinking. Isn’t the issue. It’s everybody else. I don’t have a problem. They just like to pick on me.[00:04:00]
Yes, this could be difficult to manage my righting reflex, reflex drinking. Isn’t the issue. It’s everybody else. I don’t have a problem. They just like to pick on me. Imagine if Calvin said that to you.That’ll help you manage your righting reflex, man, of course. And if you take a step back and not react some days it just feels like everybody’s ganging up on you and, and you just want to feel heard and under.
Empathy. Yeah. Tamp down that writing reflects. Yep. Oh man. Gosh, there was a situation this weekend that I was managing my righting reflex and I was like, all right. Just yep. Yep. Just gonna, just gonna, not correct here. All right, Casey, this one is a leadership one. And you expect me to accomplish all [00:05:00] that in that timeframe.
Good luck. I can barely keep up with what’s on my plate now.
Good. My favorite.
So the folks on the empty, read it again one more time. Sorry. I got distracted by the music. Tell by the jig. And you expect me to accomplish all that in that timeframe. Good luck. I can barely keep up with, on my, keep up with all that’s on my plate right now. Okay. You’re having a hard time just breathing and staying on top of the few things that you do have to manage.
Okay. All right. John master metaphors,
John, this is senior housing. How dare you charge what you do for seniors to live here? It’s borderline highway [00:06:00] robbery is it’d be my writing reflex.
How dare you charged for what? Oh gosh, let me start over senior housing. How dare you charge what you do for seniors to live here? It’s borderline highway robbery. It’s almost offensive to you with just your life experience and all you’ve been through to see something like this, be charged for so much. I really is how they feel.
Yeah. Especially coming from senior housing. I love that. All right. Here’s mine employment. It’s not my fault. I haven’t found a job yet. You guys haven’t done your part to help.
And is that righting reflex, manage that writing reflex [00:07:00] or reflect, oh,
it’s not my fault. I haven’t found a job yet. You guys, haven’t done your part to help me.
When you look back at the time we’ve spent together, we haven’t really done anything to help you get where you want to be. That’s a good one. Overstated. Yeah. That’s a hard one because you don’t want to at all feel like you haven’t done your part, right. A hard one to get out. All right, Casey drinking. I’ve tried to quit before, but I don’t think it’s my fault that it hasn’t worked. My family has booze in the house and it’s an unfair situation to ask me to not.
I see here it is again, [00:08:00] I just love the music to it. I’ve tried to quit drinking before, but I don’t think it’s my fault that it hasn’t. My family has booze in the house, and it’s an unfair situation to ask me to not drink it. You know, the longer this has gone on there is this part of you that just thinks am I going to continue to let my family sabotage my desire to start to get healthy?
You know, you have that in you to make that decision and you’re trying to figure out, do I want to take hold of it now, Mike? That was a great one case that was very powerful. He focused on their self efficacy, their personal agency focused on choice. I mean, that is, we need to take that clip right there and I’ll show that a mic, a training, or like an incredible, it was in at the same time, empowering that they had an insight themselves.
There’s still so much going on there. And Casey. Yeah, [00:09:00] it was powerful. Do I win anything on wheel of fortune for that one then is this wheel of fortune, did an MRI is about intrinsic value and intrinsic. You can be satisfied that you just contributed to the world. Whatever. Show me the money.
We need more confetti and sounds I haven’t confetti and south that takes care of the money work. All right, John, this is your turn now. This is a drinking adolescent. I’m not concerned about my drinking at this point. It’s on occasion and it really isn’t that bad. Let’s spin the wheel.
All right. I’m not concerned about my drinking at this point. It’s on occasion and it really isn’t that.[00:10:00]
So what’s that about for you? With why you drink?
Good question. I like it. All right. Mine is law enforcement. What an officer might hear. You don’t know me. I didn’t do anything. I was just trying to provide for my family. So back.
We haven’t had this one yet. No, we haven’t. You don’t know me? I didn’t do anything. I was just trying to provide for my family back off. On one hand, you don’t want people to judge and criticize. But on the other hand, you’re just trying to figure out what way you can [00:11:00] provide for your family and make sure that they have food on the table.
Good one. So there we go. All right. Last round, everyone. All right. Casey leadership. The numbers are just the way it is. We’ve tried other strategies and they just don’t seem to change. I think this is just the new way of. We hear that a lot. I like to call this the Eeyore, version of pre-contemplation who says the word
that sounded like you are somebody must be reading child stories. Yeah. All right.
The numbers are just the way it is. We’ve tried other strategies and they just don’t seem to change. I think this is [00:12:00] just the new way of life, you know, there’s part of me just thinks there’s no way things could get better, but there’s another part of you that it’s always wanting to be at the talker game and be one of the top producers.
I love that. That is a great one. That is a great. Alright, John law enforcement, what an officer might hear you think I’d listen to you. Your job is to lock people up.
You think I’d listened to you? Your job is to lock people up. So you’re thinking. Push you around and tell you a [00:13:00] bunch of things you don’t want to do.
sorry. Moyers lines for anyone that knows go see the around her video. And you’ll see that. That is a great line. Great line. I remember right. Casey. I remember saying our room. Are you saying something like you can take these things? I think there are certain ones that I’ve played derived. I’ve said that more than once.
Thank God she didn’t write them down there said verbally. Yeah. Yeah. But ultimately something about that’s where I would put myself on the hook. If they’re throwing me in the hook, that, that much at this point I would just go. So you’re thinking I’m or that someone like me or situation like this. That will give to mind just from seeing the round or I love it.
I love it. All right. Last one for me, school district, we’ve tried all those things and they don’t work.[00:14:00]
It feels really down. You feel really downtrodden when you can’t seem to find a solution.
All right. Well, thank you guys for participating in this fun new game, but I just created
a little overstimulating, but it works for me to like the wheel. I thought it was really neat. I like the wheel. I like watching your dance to the music. Well, thank you guys so much for playing. Thank you guys for watching. And again, feel free to send any scenarios, situations anything that you want us to practice with, that you would like to practice with our way we, or if you’d like to join our practice, any of the above we’d have.
We’d be happy to have you be a [00:15:00] part of it. Go ahead and [email protected] with any scenarios or situations or just to provide feedback or connect with us. So thanks again for watching and have a wonderful day.